It’s a thing.
LPI’s brand of rebellion has always been spectacular. We try to calmly and firmly explain that the screaming /hitting /snatching is not acceptable and if that fails to work, we leave her to it and calmly tell her that it won’t get her what she wants. Then ignore it. Maaaaan it is so hard!
Usually she wants the thing LPO has, and that is what leads to the above behaviour.
It isn’t always that though. This morning’s stroll to nursery was not as smooth as it might have been apparently, as LPI managed to stall mummy AW for an HOUR with her histrionics. LPO sat patiently in the buggy but LPI (whose spot is on the buggy board) just refused to continue. She began by saying she needed a poo. Then started saying that LPO could go to nursery but she was going to walk home by herself. This walk is along a really busy road – there is no room for tactical ignoring here. She said all sorts of stuff about wanting to go and find me, about wanting to go to work and not to nursery… it went on and on, well as I already said for an hour.
Once we got home, there was more, sparked by wanting the exact item LPO had, and not being allowed to snatch it. LPO was not showing her most charming side, either. LPO’s yells and hitting have also been pretty dreadful, but then both girls have been grouches due to being unwell. What with all the transitions going on, we are hoping things will soon calm down.
The girls remain on the fence about nursery. They generally like it when they’re there- a lot. They are coming on loads with their letters and sounds and tell us lots of stories. LPI is generally quiet and well behaved there – LPO has had major and minor tantrums and crapped.
They were definitely ready to start it.
How do you deal positively with such challenges?
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