To say that mummy AW’s long time best friend is competitive is perhaps the understatement of the year so far.
We considered and rejected her offer of her husband’s sperm, and I’m now starting to appreciate the reasons for AW’s immediate stricken conviction that it would be A Terrible Idea. AW has known her for about 30 years, and to me she just seemed like a very nice, if theatrical, girl. That initial analysis is correct – but her son, who is about 6 months younger than the LPs has become a platform for the sharing of unwanted advice, tips and boasts the amplification of which (had we a half-sibling for her boy) is unthinkable.
This friend, let’s call her Bob, took a back seat for our last year or so in Thailand because she was sulking about being told it was a bad time after turning up unannounced at the twins’ moment for going to bed (any time with twins under 1 is hard unannounced). It was a shame and before we left the country, we met up, had a ball, and she wished she had not been sulking soooo long (this was Bob’s own admission) and seen us more.
AW and I were in agreement that this guy’s vial did not have the X-factor, but for different reasons. Imagine putting half-siblings in a life-long competition? We would clearly always be wrong. I wasn’t keen on the genetic material in question anyway (but I’d have settled – there was not much available!) but accepting the sperm of someone’s husband before they themselves have successfully conceived is not exactly preparation for a smooth voyage through life. This good-hearted girl is revealing herself to have a shocking lack of understanding of modern gender and LGBT issues – something I have come to expect from older thai citizens, but not from those with many lesbian, gay and tom-dee friends (which, at risk of contradicting myself, is almost everyone – showing the paradox of Thailand perfectly- an acceptance of people’s sexuality, but a dismissal of their rights and needs as ‘pit pokatee’ (abnormal) and ‘other ‘ or lesser).
Have you got that?
I’ll post more about this in a part two tomorrow. Don’t want you to strain your brains.
This blog sequence is going to cover: -a light-hearted critique of the critique of our parenting,
-LGBT and gender and inequality in Thailand
-why we are raising ‘tomboys’ (we AREN’T!)
– the catastrophic results of the new fertility law in Thailand (post-Gammy)